Sunday, March 11, 2007

Is it worth it

one of the reactions after a conflict between 2 people, is to use the silent treatment. the thing about it is that the longer you go without talking to each other, the harder it gets to reconcile. and no matter how much we say that pride shouldn't come between 2 good friends or 2 people in a relationship / marriage, it's always there.

the whole thing becomes a vicious chain of negative emotions: anger turns into pride, which turns into stubbornness, which eventually turns into contempt. and once u've reached that stage, the chances are that the connection which once existed between the 2 of u is lost for ever.

before u start giving someone the silent treatment always ask yourself, is it worth losing this friendhsip / relationship over ? Though the answer is sometimes yes, most of the time u'll find that it's no ;)

7 comments:

KJ said...

Someone is silent-treating you huh? It is terrible, I know..

I should stop practicing it

Sene said...

I agree with you. Something like this happened to us. And this went on for about more than a year. And then it takes a lot of courage to break the ice. But one of us did. And so, we rekindled a 6 yr old friendship.
In the end u feel why did we behave the way we did. Everything was so childish.....

Kinan said...

It depends!

In certain cases it is worth it, in other ones it's not...

I always warn people around me that I have absolutely no trouble of losing friends and acquaintances, so they better watch out!

Just try to weigh in what you've given and what you've gotten in return during your friendship/relationship and see if it's worth recovering?!

People come and go!

mosan mosan said...

I agree with kinan 100% , I also think that when things are broken it will not be the same again unfortunatly......

so do you let youe emotions lead you and deal with one disappointment after the other ? or you keep your distanet and consentrate on your self and socailize on superfecial bases?

good post ...cheerz

Joud said...

KJ: yes, u really should !

sene: wow a whole year; i bet the reason of the conflict was so silly, it usually is. but at least u got your friend back :)

kinan: u're absolutely right, it's about how that person was affecting you overall; what weighs in more - the good times or the bad times ? were they there for you as much as u were there for them ? do u feel like smthg's missing without them ?

mosan: sure u can socialize superficially, but u still need some closer bonds - i know i do; people u can let your guard down with, people whom u seem to care about more than others. but i have to say in the end kinan's right - people come and go

eshda3wa said...

i never give silent treatment
im a firm believer in ALWAYS talking about how u feel!

Joud said...

eshda3wa: walla zein etsawween - i try to apply that too as much as i can; i've seen silence destroy friendships and even a marriage